Honour Yourself

Last Saturday night I came home from work with the intention of going out. And when I got home I realized that the only thing I wanted to do was stay home with my dog and read a book.

It meant cancelling on two people, a friend who was excited to go out, (but also just as tired as I was); and my sister who is married to the lead singer and guitarist of the band I was planning to see. And even though I truly dislike going back on my word, I also don’t like to do something if I’m not feeling it. 

Staying home really helped me to reflect on what I want and need as a newly single mom. 

And that’s to honour myself. 

Take time for myself. 

Be at home alone and allow myself to feel all of the feelings instead of filling up my time with friends every night. 

My first two weeks being home alone most nights while the girls slept at their dads, were full of friends. And the distractions were great, but journaling and getting back to writing (or whatever it is YOU love to do) can only happen if you create space for it.

So I’m happy to say that I’ve created space for it.

And I’m proud of myself. I feel strong. I feel like I have some clarity on my direction from here and I’m open to whatever the universe has in store for me. 

I’m also trying new things and I’m attracting wonderful new friends. 

Like just this past Friday morning for example. I met my new neighbour friend for a 6:15am workout at her bootcamp style gym.  I loved it. It was amazing to have my workout done before getting the girls and it was incredible to push myself that hard. And feeling the energy of everyone combined was incredible. 

And the best part was that it created space for me to spend the day with my neighbour bestie who was celebrating 41. We watched our children run and play in the rain in their bare feet and bathing suits. It was pretty magical. 

Just an example of the magic that can happen when you honour yourself and your needs. 

If you find that you’re a yes person or that you fill your time up constantly in the company of others, maybe try to re-evaluate that. Are you doing what you want to do? Are you making space for the things you love to do? 

It’s not selfish to give to yourself. Remember that. 

Wishing you more peace, balance, happiness, vibrant health and lasting love.

Sandy xo
“What we think, we become.” - Buddha