5 Simple Steps To Love
My journey to LOVE was pretty magical. I was writing a book at the time and I decided to stop writing about all the bad dates, and write as though I was writing my love story as it unfolded.
That’s when I met Deryk. (On a dating website!).
I was drawn to his bright blue eyes and shaggy brown hair. I overlooked the fact that he was 8 years younger and reached out about our common ground, teaching English in South Korea.
At 35, I had finally reached that space in my life where I knew who I was, loved who I was, knew what I wanted in a partner…and was genuinely ready to let someone in to love me, and in return love fully back.
I remember the first time Deryk told me he loved me. My response was still a little guarded and I answered back “You know what this means right? You can’t just say those words to me and not want to get married one day or have babies”.
I was on a pretty serious mission to find my person ( I love this expression!). I wasn’t willing to settle for anything less than amazing and I wasn’t afraid to move on if we weren’t aligned. I had been afraid to speak up in the past. This time I was going to say it all. (I still do!) And if I scared him away, whoever he was, all the better. I knew the one for me wouldn’t run.
Deryk and I have now been together for over 7 years and he shows me every day how much he loves me and is committed to our family. We have such a beautiful love and he’s my best friend. Our two little girls are the reason I moved on. I knew that I wanted children and the feeling I get when I’m hugging them both at the same time fills me up with such love. It’s hard to believe this kind of love exists. We’ve had our share of hard times but mostly lots of laughter and love and no matter what has happened, we can talk about anything. Deryk’s my twin flame. (I’ll explain more on that in a future post).
Okay,. so now for the reason you’re here. To learn the 5 Simple Steps To Love…
BE IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF FIRST. It is so important to be in love with the person you are. That’s when you can attract the person who’ll compliment your life. Spend time alone. Do the things that fill you up. Practice smiling often. And be yourself when you meet someone! You’ll find someone that loves you for exactly who you are!
LIVE AS IF THE LOVE YOU WANT IS ALREADY IN YOUR LIFE. How would you feel if you had the love you desire right now? That feeling!!! Try to feel that as often as you can. I kept fresh flowers constantly and cooked as if I were cooking for my family. And I was so happy!! Give gratitude daily for this love. Close your eyes and try to visualize your perfect partner. You’ll attract love by being in this high vibration frequency.
MAKE SPACE IN YOUR LIFE FOR LOVE. What does your closet look like? How about your bed? Is there space for someone to come into your life? Prepare your home as if you’re making space for the love of your life to move in.
BE OPEN TO LOVE. And know that you’re deserving of being loved. Believe it can happen and it will. It's never too late for love.
KNOW WHAT YOU WANT. Too often people talk about what they don’t want in a relationship or they're caught up in past relationships that didn't work out. I made a list of all the things I wanted in a partner, and Deryk nailed every single one of them. Putting energy into what we want will attract it to us sooner.
After following these steps and being honest with myself about who I was and what I wanted in a partner, I met Deryk. And we moved in together in just 3 months! It’s true what they say! You know when you know!
Good luck!
Wishing you more peace, balance, happiness, vibrant health and lasting love.
Sandy xo
"What we think, we become." -Buddha