None Of My Business

There’s been a lot of drama lately with my ex. I really thought my co-parenting relationship could be a happy one. We had agreed we’d be amicable and always put the girls first. But lately some things have come up and that resulted in not so nice things being said about my character. Again.

Even though I said I wasn’t impacted by the words, it was so obvious that I was.

I reached out to a dear friend (she’s a transformational and intuitive soul coach), as she’s been through a divorce, to seek her advice.

“How do I get him to stop saying mean things about me?” was my question to her.

Her answer?

“You don’t”.

It was a real wake up for me. She put me back on track with a perspective shift and reminded me to keep my thoughts focussed on the highest possible vision of what my coparenting relationship could be.

She also reminded me that when something triggers us, it’s a good thing! It means we have some healing to do. And I needed to hear this. So I’ve been doing some internal work to try and figure out where in my past I’ve felt this way before , so I can identify it and release it.

I know what others think of us is none of our business. My good friend Jenn taught me that years ago. It may sound harsh but it’s true. But it was a statement I had forgotten to apply to my own life.

When I was so deep in the mess of things I couldn’t see straight, my dear friend pulled me out and reminded me that my energy is better spent on parenting my girls and taking care of their needs while they are right in front of me. And to not give any energy to the stories that are not true.

So, this is a reminder to you too, if you’re stuck in something. Give your energy to the outcome that you want. Try getting a birds eye view on what’s happening so that you can shift the way you look at your situation, so that you can make it better.

And if you just can’t, if you’re stuck like I was, let me connect you with my friend. Her mentorship program was created to help women shift to a place of expansion and empowerment, and she’s the best coach I know.

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Wishing you more peace, balance, happiness, vibrant health and lasting love.

Sandy xo